I have read so many great articles this week about the movie
hitting the big screen today in theaters around the world… 50 Shades of Grey.
It is quite clear that there are varying opinions on the
subject and a variety of concerns and issues to discuss based around this one
movie. I have read articles siting various elements of concern including the
mainstream acceptance and promotion of bondage, abuse, rape, pornography, and
more as the reason that this movie is so disturbing. Those things are disturbing,
that’s true.
But then, this morning, I read this article over on “grace every day”.
I don’t know if the blogger at grace every day will ever see
this post, but I want to publicly thank her. Not for being another person who
is against this movie… but for understanding and publicly sharing the bigger
concerns that we all SHOULD have with this movie.
I will not be going to the movie theaters this weekend. I
will not go see this movie, ever. So, some people would want to know, why then do I
care? “Just don’t go see it if you don’t want to and leave the rest of us
alone".
There is just one problem with that… 50 Shades is not leaving me
alone!!
As a mom, I am opposed to this movie. I am not going to go
see 50 Shades, but I can’t keep it out of my house unless we become a family
who disowns their TV and gets rid of it completely. We don’t have cable or satellite
TV at our house. We have an old TV with a digital converter box and an antenna
on it. We get a limited number of channels with limited options of what to watch.
I can turn the TV off, sure…
Here is my problem. Even if we got rid of our TV sets in our
home, 50 Shades would still be infiltrating our lives… Because, my house isn’t
the only house on the block… I have an 11 year old son. I can promise you, the
other boys in his class have seen the commercials on TV for this movie. I can
promise you, it is peaking their curiosity. And I can promise you, they will
likely be talking about it. He rides a bus to school that is a mixture of
elementary, middle school, and high school students. I can promise you, the
older boys on his bus will be talking about it.
Even more disturbing, is the thought that when this movie
comes out on DVD and Blue Ray, where it can be rented or bought… this movie
will end up in my sons friends’ homes. Some of my son’s 11 and 12 year old friends
will probably see this movie before the end of this year… That genuinely hurts
my heart to think about.
As a wife, I am opposed to this movie. I have to tell you,
you can be married to the most amazing, wonderful, Christian man in the entire
world. One who will never cheat on you, never cross a line physically… That
does NOT mean that he will never face an internal struggle to stay pure and
faithful to you in his heart.
I absolutely hate commercials. I always have. Wish we could
just skip them. There are certain commercials that should not be on local
television stations, but are. Victoria Secret Commercials, the Hardees Commercial
that came out not too long ago that sexualizes a hamburger (that one was just
ridiculous), and others that I am sure I am forgetting in this moment. And now
we have a commercial that is advertising 50 Shades of Grey; a visual enticement
into a fantasy world of physically dominating and abusing women for a man’s
pleasure.
The media is calling this “mommy porn” giving the impression
that it is a movie for women. That is just a lie. It is pornography, period.
There will be daddy’s who will become just as infatuated and just as trapped
because of it.
I cannot speak for every man in the world and I am NOT
speaking for my own husband when I say this… But it concerns me that our
loving, faithful, Christian husbands, have to endure these commercials coming
on TV every day. How many loving, faithful, Christian husbands will have to
fight a battle of purity and faithfulness in his marriage because of this movie
and it’s commercials that won’t leave us alone?? Not because they chose to go
see the movie, but because the movie is being pushed into our living rooms
every day.
Society today has this thing they do where they want
Christians to stay out of their business. They want us to stay out of their way
and let them do what they want to do, without trying to stop them. If we don’t,
they start calling us haters. They tell us that we are trying to take rights
away from them.
Where are our rights as Christians? Even non-Christians who don’t
agree with 50 Shades, where are their rights? I can’t stop people from reading
the books or watching the movie, but why do I have to deal with it showing up
in my house, uninvited, and unwanted?
My main concern is not for the people who will go see this
movie. I am concerned for them and I pray they will see it for what it is. But
my MAIN concern is for my family and my fellow Christian families. My main
concern is for our children and our husbands.
Satan uses whatever he can to attack families, and this is a
major attack. So, whatever I can do to “fight” 50 shades isn’t about 50 shades
at all. It isn’t about fighting those who are in favor of the movie. It is
about taking back our families and fighting the schemes of the enemy. That is
something that we must do as Christians every single day of our lives. This day
is no different.
